Why do you think you choose who you choose?
That may be a question that you don’t get very often so you may not know how to answer that just yet. Another way to put it is…
Why do you think you choose (or don’t choose) your friends?
Why do you look at people and think, “I want to be them!” or “I don’t want to be them…”?
Part of our selection process can be defined as natural…only because of what’s become cultural. We’ve learned to gravitate towards what is cool, what is trendy, what popular, and what we feel like we need in order to fit in.
The other part of our selection process can be detrimental to our lives as we press on to become more like the perfect Role Model who came to walk our walk, feel our pain, and give us guidance and direction. He was literally and figuratively on our level.
Flesh to flesh, eye to eye.
When we put on the “THEM” filter it will stray us from becoming more like Christ because we will do the exact opposite of what Jesus has asked us to do.
If we are busy picking and choosing then we may…
-write others off
-make fun of people
-gossip about other people
-label people as less than what crowns Christ would place on them
-cause deep cut wounds of hurt
Even if none of our picking and choosing is explicitly verbal, the “THEM” filter is ultimately saying…
-You are not enough
-You are not worth it
-You are not good
-You are not valued
-You are not loved
Jesus gives us the perfect example of what our “US” filter could and should look like.
Jesus was passing through Samaria, tired and weary as He sat by a well when a woman walked up and began to get water.
A woman from Samaria came to draw water. Jesus said to her, “Give me a drink.” (For his disciples had gone away into the city to buy food.) The Samaritan woman said to him, “How is it that you, a Jew ask for a drink from me, a woman of Samaria?” (For Jews have no dealings with Samaritans.) John 4:7-9 ESV
Here’s why this is important…Jews and Samaritans didn’t interact.
Samaritans were considered less than, not on the same level.
But Jesus was known for breaking the mold and challenging the status quo…because He didn’t want there to be distinction between US and THEM.
He wanted there to only be an US.
He wants you to see people the way that He sees people. Not defined by skin color, race, ethnicity, background, or how hip and cool they can be…but defined by who He claims them as. He claims them as His and He claims them as worth it.
Jesus said to her, “Everyone who drinks of this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” John 4: 13-14
As this chapter of a greater story ends…if JESUS hadn’t been willing to acknowledge someone who didn’t even believe, herself, that she was valuable then this Samaritan woman wouldn’t have believed in who Jesus was and what He could offer her, eternity. But He did acknowledge her and she did believe! It was because of her story, her encounter, that many other Samaritans (who also see themselves as less than) believed in Him too.
God wants to change the way you see other people because there is no THEM in Jesus, there is only an US.
Right now, this may be the thing that thumps you hard in chest or is pestering you like a fly buzzing in your ear. That’s because this is so important. Especially today.
In a world where our social media feeds and TV screens are constantly plastered with differences in opinion, hatred and even hatred resulting in violence, this is the time to actually work on changing our perspective.
What if every person we laid eyes came through our filter as someone who was the handiwork of the most brilliant Creator?
Remember, every single person you know is known.
What if we saw THEM through HIM?
The US Filter Application
Prayer: Pray that God would give you the desire to have the filter for seeing people the way that He sees them.
Scripture: John 4: 7-14
Say It To Yourself: What if I saw THEM through HIM?
Journal: Journal about how you think God sees you and how you think that is different from the way that the world sees you. Also journal about how you want God to help you see other people through His eyes.